{"id":3342,"date":"2015-10-30T16:59:02","date_gmt":"2015-10-30T21:59:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bizwomenrock.com\/?p=3342"},"modified":"2015-10-30T16:59:02","modified_gmt":"2015-10-30T21:59:02","slug":"stop-apologizing-learn-to-say-no-and-7-more-tips-for-womens-success-at-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/bizwomenrock.com\/beta\/stop-apologizing-learn-to-say-no-and-7-more-tips-for-womens-success-at-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop apologizing, learn to say ‘no,’ and 7 more tips for women’s success at work"},"content":{"rendered":"

It took me a long time to learn the magic word: NO.<\/p>\n

The next step was learning to say \u201cno\u201d without offering an excuse and\/or apology.<\/p>\n

To become a habit, this new skill continues to take practice.<\/p>\n

However, the benefits are many and have allowed me to rethink the way I spend my time and energy.<\/p>\n

Practicing \u201cno\u201d has become quite liberating and has helped me balance what really matters in both my work and life.<\/p>\n

As Jim Collins, the author of “Good to Great” puts it, \u201c\u2019Stop doing\u2019 lists are more important than \u2018to do\u2019 lists.\u201d This new muscle has become my North Star and taught me that by saying \u201cno,\u201d opportunities for \u201cyes\u201d moments become possible.<\/p>\n

More often than not, women struggle with guilt and not being able to do it all, apologizing and explaining along the way; why we can\u2019t accommodate a last-minute work project or why we need to leave a meeting to handle daycare pickup or attend our child\u2019s soccer game.<\/p>\n

Life is busy. Work is busy. Our minds are busy. Saying no gives us permission to manage our time by eliminating the clutter of unnecessary obligations. We live in a culture that glorifies busy so it is no wonder that we can easily mistake activity for progress.<\/p>\n

Learning to say \u201cno\u201d is just one of the many lessons I have learned over my career. We never stop learning and growing if we remain open to new ideas, perspectives and ways to lead our own lives.<\/p>\n

Curiosity has fueled my interest in what brings us success and happiness in the workplace, not just from my own experiences of success and failure but of others who have so generously shared their stories. I have always believed that we should not reinvent the wheel, but rather discover and share best practices.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a few lessons learned that could help you get where you want to be:<\/p>\n

1. Be your authentic self<\/strong>.<\/h3>\n

Start with an understanding of who you are, what you are passionate about and where you should be: Am I in the right career? Am I in the right job? Do I fit into this culture? Don\u2019t try to be someone else because that person is already taken. You become the leader of your life when you step into your true self. Only you can do this critical work to deeply understand you.<\/p>\n

2. Show up with a positive attitude<\/strong>.<\/h3>\n

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